Today’s challenge to write about something you worry about…. that list is endless, from financial security to world peace. The one thing however that is never far from my thoughts is not being able to protect my Tribe. The thought of that leaves my stomach in a knot.
The teenager has 2 more years of school & a year until she is 18. Knowing what I got up and what is out there tempts me to lock her in the garage and push her food under the door until she is 25! Skater Girl is very free-spirited and I know when she hits the teenage years I will be having many sleepless nights.
I have been made aware over the last few weeks just how rife bullying is in all parts of the world. The story of 10-year-old Ashlynn Conner, who committed suicide after being bullied, has stuck with me. Sad that kids can be so cruel to each other. @Cupcakemummy posted a clips yesterday that really hit home to me.
I found the following statistics to highlight what a problem bullying is:
Bullying statistics for 2010 revealed about one in seven students in grades 0 to 12th grade is either a bully or has been a victim of bullying. Sometimes a teen or child who has been bullied eventually becomes the bully as a way to retaliate. According to various bullying studies, many teens and children act out violently on their peers through acts of bullying because they are abused at home.
- Over half, about 56 percent, of all students have witnesses a bullying crime take place while at school.
- A reported 15 percent of all students who don’t show up for school report it to being out of fear of being bullied while at school.
- There are about 71 percent of students that report bullying as an on-going problem.
- Along that same vein, about one out of every 10 students drops out or changes schools because of repeated bullying.
- Some of the top years for bullying include 4th through 8th graders in which 90 percent were reported as victims of some kind of bullying.
- Other recent bullying statistics reveal that 54 percent of students reported that witnessing physical abuse at home can lead to violence in school.
Suicide continues to be one of the leading causes of death among children under the age of 14. Bullycide is a term used to describe suicide as the result of bullying. New bullying statistics 2010 are reporting that there is a strong connection between bullying, being bullied and suicide, according to a new study from the Yale School of Medicine. Suicide rates are continuing to grow among adolescents, and have grown more than 50 percent in the past 30 years.
There are many ways to try to prevent bullying from getting worse and by reporting incidents, you can help cut down on future cases of bullying involving other victims. Maintaining a strong sense of self and good overall self-esteem is another way to ensure you won’t be a victim of bullying attacks since bullies generally only prey on those they feel are weaker than them. This is also why it is important to have a solid group of friends that will have your back if a bully does try to attack in some way. Parents, be sure to talk to your children and teens about bullying and how to prevent it from happening to them or their peers. Make sure they know the importance of reporting such incidents and ways to handle a bully.
As a parent you can only do so much and wrapping them in cotton wool is unfortunately not an option. I would like to think that if you have an open relationship with your children they will tell you if they are being harmed in any way but this might not always be the case.
I chatted yesterday to The Tribe about bullying and also made sure they knew it was wrong to bully other children. So I continue to worry as I am sure every parent does and I think is part of the job. Someone once said to me that we were given our children on loan to look after and all we can do is love them. Love them we do!