Who’s the Boss?

I read an interesting article on HuffPost, written by Greg Savage who is a leader in Global Recruiting.  He speaks about how people don’t leave companies, they leave leaders.  This article is worth a read if you are leader of any kind.


Combined with this article and having had a flurry of colleagues recently leave to take up  various new challenges, it got me thinking. Is there such a thing as a dream job?  Or is this as rare as the unicorn?  Do people still stay in a job for 20 years and wait to get their gold watch like our parents did?  Have corporate and business structures become so “flat” that if you desire any form of growth you need to job hop?  And of course the Million Dollar question, money?

After many conversations at “book club”, around the table at a braai or from various comments on social media I firmly believe that ONE of the main reason why people leave their employment is due to the leaders.

Here is a list of Bosses you could encounter in the workplace:

The Typewriter Boss

The Typewriter Boss has had the same job for 30 years.  He hates change. He likes to reference “the good old days”.  He still has a box of floppy discs which he uses to back up his DOS.  Social Media is foreign to him.

The Black & White Boss

The Black & White Boss works strictly by the book.  No initiative.  No sense of humour. No grey area. When presented with a question he will answer by quoting paragraphs directly from the Constitution.  Approach with patience and perhaps even a dictionary.

The Grey Area Boss

The Grey Area Boss is the exact opposite of the Black & White Boss.  This man only works in the grey area and pushing boundaries is his strong point. No task is impossible.

The Martyr Boss

The Martyr Boss lives for the company. He has no life. He works every Public Holiday and averages a 12 hour work day.  How do you know this? Because he tells you, everyday! He insists on coming to work no matter what state of health he is in.  In fact, even though he broke his arm while cycling, he still managed to SUP to work during the floods.

The Jargon Boss

The Jargon Boss is all about what is on trend.  Whether it be about what he’s wearing, what he’s driving or what device he’s using.  This boss attends many conferences and seminars.  He likes  to justify that by chucking in “terms” and phrases he might have picked up.  Even if those have no relevance or context to the conversation.  “So although our GP might be down it is due to the influx of data which was determined by the algorithms of which I will bring the analytics to at our next meeting.”  Makes no sense but sounds impressive, at least in his own mind.  If you are not a lover of cheese, this boss will be a challenge.

The Rarely Spotted Boss

Here the name really says it all.  This boss floats in and out when need be.  His sporting code, which is normally golf, takes priority over most things.  That is one appointment in the diary that can never be changed.  He leaves his team to carry the can and swoops in for the good stuff.  Not the worst kind, especially if you are not a fan of the “micro manager”.

The Hollywood Boss

This boss has his name and title everywhere. On the door, on the email signature, on the business card.  He has all the fancy gadgets that are needed to be successful (in his eyes).  Apple/Mac stuff adorning his desk. Montblanc pens to sign those “deals” with.  He does not have the modest Nespresso machine in his office, he has his own Barista.  Lip service aplenty here.

The Sadistic Boss

On the outside all looks good. Staff are provided with lavish events, they are signed up for motivation courses and on a rotation system get to be “flavour of the month”.  This boss keeps a scorecard, not necessarily in his head, it could  be a physical one.  The staff need to fall in with all he is experiencing.  So if said Boss is cycling the Epic, for argument sake, the whole staff must be active, happy and healthy. If said boss is in a slump and besides to go on a bender, the whole staff must join in.  If you don’t, you can be sure that you struck of the favourite list, never to be placed back.  This boss also likes to shout from his desk to get staff into his office.  The idea of using the phone has never been an option for him. If staff members are to be disciplined, this is done with the door open, in full view of other staff.  Kind of like a very “subtle” warning of who is actually the boss. If this boss is encountered, revert to BizCommunity immediately, I repeat, immediately.

The “I have faith in you” Boss

This boss is a rare gem and a keeper. Hang onto him with both hands/arms/legs.  He sees something in you that you perhaps don’t even know exists.  He has faith in the team he has chosen. He does not micromanage, he merely meets with his team on a weekly basis to touch-base and add pearls of wisdom.  He uplifts his team and leads by example.  Winner!

Have I missed out a boss that you have experienced?


** Feminists please note that all the bosses were referred to as a “HE” only for ease of reference.

** Some people might well tick more then one box here and be a multitude of bosses



hUmp Day Hottie – Siv Ngesi

hump day hottie

My inbox has been flooded for requests of another installment of hUmp Day Hottie.  More specifically, the ladies want to know about Siv Ngesi.  So for the sake of the Nation I met up with him for a “coffee date” and during the conversation I chucked in some of the questions you wanted asked.


LK&OT: Thanks for meeting up with me.  Sorry Miss Bailey couldn’t join us but she is busy with her rehearsals for the The Rouge Revue Burlesque Company or she is eating bacon. Never really sure with her.  Anyway, coffee?


SN: No way! Detoxing.  I have a topless shoot coming up in a couple of days!

LK&OT: Again? Didn’t we have the same conversation last time I saw you?


SN: That was for Cosmo. Different shoot this time.  Anyway, it would be unfair of me to deny the ladies of seeing my six  eight-pack.

LK&OT: Fair enough. I am amazed at all that you manage to do: Boxer, MC, Comedian, Presenter, Actor, Producer, Protector of the Ladies and most importantly Protector of the Children.  I see you have also committed to running the Cape-Town Marathon. Do you ever get tired?

SN: I will sleep when I am dead Sister.

LK&OTH:  Point taken. Seems to me that Black Twitter has it in for you.  Any response?


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SN: They just need to keep calm and remember: Siv is the King of Twitter.

LK&OT: And when they refer to you as UMLUNGU?

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SN: Sticks and stones Sister!

LK&OT:  Our most popular question, are you a boob or butt guy?

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SN: I love ALL women.

LK&OT: I loved watching you on Strictly Come Dancing. What is your favourite dance move?

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SN: That propeller dance or was it called the helicopter?

LK&OT: If you say so, then the Helicopter it is.  Moving on, people are asking if you have a Super Power?

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SN: Super Siv!

LK&OT: Do you have  a weakness?

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SN: Look at me and think about what you just asked me? I think not.

LK&OT: Sorry, that was really a silly question.  I need to get Miss Bailey to start doing her research before she sends me these questions.  We have already run through the long list of all you do. However, if you weren’t all those many things, what would you be?

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SN: Rugby player, no wait…


SN: A pilot, no wait…

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SN: That oke that Kurt Darren sings about, Kaptein span die seile.  Actually, on second thoughts

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SN: A professional boxer like my hero Muhammad Ali.


SN: Actually Siv could be just whatever he set his mind too.  If Kanye is planning on being the President of the USA in 2020, then President of South Africa I can be.

LK&OT: Aunty Helen will be very chuffed to hear you are running for Presidency. Last question.  Talk us through your knock out of Graham Richards and your victory dance.  I believe he ended up with a couple of stitches?


SN: Graeme is my bro and that was all for charity. The little victory dance was me channeling some of my Strictly Come Dancing  moves.

LK&OT: As always you have kept me entertained.  Best of luck with the Cape-Town Marathon.  We will  be along the route, look out for us.  We support you all the way.


** Once again thanks to the peeps on the interwebs who have kindly let use their images.

Feel Good Friday – Toe vind ek jou

Feels like forever since I did one of these posts and it has been.  I am not even sure I have an excuse as to why I have not been blogging.  I took a look at my drafts and there are currently 12 posts there, waiting to be brought too life.  So hopefully this is a step in the right direction.

Work as always is interesting.  A few changes with a couple of teammates leaving (that in itself is a pending blog post).  The Tribelets are keeping me busy with their hectic sport and social schedules.

Week-end plans:

I have 4 boys sleeping over tonight, all under the age of 8, so not as exciting as it sounds!  Then off to Caleb’s rugby match on Saturday. So pretty much the glamorous life of Soccer Mom, except I wont be wearing a matching tracksuit.  A much needed catch up with mates on Saturday evening around the fire. Then the compulsory visit to Bob’s bagels on Sunday, after waking up early for the start of the Comrades. Bliss.

I originally had Cheerleader by OMI as today’s pick for a Feel Good Friday tune, albeit the video is terrible.  There is however a tune that I have on repeat, perhaps not that upbeat but Proudly South African.  Give it a listen!

Stay safe, stay warm and have a great week-end.


Heaven has taken my Hero

Dear Pops,

Happy 67th birthday!

Mili-Flyn never had the privileged of meeting you.  All she knows of you are the stories we get to tell, so she knows of you through our wonderful memories.  We always look up at the evening sky and pick out the brightest star, which is you, looking down on us.  She knows you are in Heaven looking over us constantly.  She asked the other day why you couldn’t visit us from Heaven.  The idea that is was too far didn’t seem to matter to her, she said you could simply take a plane. If only it was that simple.

So while you look down on us, I have no doubt you are kicking up your heels in Heaven and having the best celebration.

Miss you always,


Pops the Legend

Pops the Legend

Do you want to build a Snowman? Mili-Flyn turns 4

Once I got my head around the fact that my little baby and LAST BORN is turning 4, I slotted into party planning mode and took to Pinterest.  Which I am sure every Mother does?  I then presented Mili-Flyn with a list of options for themes, which was such a rookie move on my part.  No amount of negotiations could persuade her to change her mind.  So the theme for this year was: Frozen!

Besides the joys of looking for ideas on Pinterest, most of the ideas and inspiration came from the stunning parties that Melinda Connor of  Pretty Things For You works her magic on! When I grow up, I want to plan parties think she does.  My sister needs a massive round of applause for always being an excellent wing woman for these parties and cutting out copious amounts of snowflakes, Olaf noses and other things.

Even though I was dragging my heels on this theme, it was loads of funny to organise.  As Melinda Connor mentioned, finding blue sweets is the most challenging thing.  Flip, I could not find any blue fizzers or blue fizz pops.  Frozen parties are big business.

Eskom did however add too my stress levels.  Load shedding was scheduled in my area during the Frozen party time slot.  So scratch jumping castle off the list.  Make coffee and tea beforehand in flasks and your problems are solved. Oh, and add a swimming pool for the adventurous kids to wade (unplanned) on the steps. As you can see from the photo’s below the birthday girl had the BEST time! What made it all worthwhile was when the birthday girl saw the table all set up she said it was BEAUTIFUL!

With today being this little person’s actual birthday, I want to wish her the happiest of birthday’s.  Ruling our house with an Iron Fist is no easy task and she manages it seamlessly.  Happy Birthday beautiful child xxx


Birthday Girl

Birthday Girl


Behold the party table.

Behold the party table.



Pin the nose on Olaf

Pin the nose on Olaf

Thank-you goodies

Thank-you goodies

Olaf noses

Olaf noses

Yummy cake

Yummy cake

Melted snow

Melted snow

Reindeer droppings anyone?

Reindeer droppings anyone?

in the words of the birthday girl, the table looked "beautiful"

in the words of the birthday girl, the table looked “beautiful”

All partied out!

All partied out!

Camping *sigh*

I feel like I should defend myself before I get into this blog post.

I have had ONE camping experience in my life.  I was in Standard 4 (Grade 6) and I went with my BFF, Heidi, camping at Palm Springs (not the glam one in the USA).  We went for 3 days and it rained for 3 days.  Strangely we didn’t return home which was only about 40 km’s away. We stayed. In the rain. Weird.  So we literally spent 3 days in a  tent with her family, listening to the pelting rain and having to walk through water soaked grass to the ablutions.  Since that traumatic experience I have managed to skillfully avoid any form of camping for the last 30 odd years.  Until recently……..

My dear husband presented me with the news that we would be going “Up North” to spend Christmas.  That in itself was a challenge to get my head around, then came the bombshell.  We would be camping in Pilanesberg *gulp*  Best part is that the Tribe will love it as the Uncle will be teaching them survival skills like how to cook rice in a 2L Coke bottle *faints on the spot*

Just to clarify I am by no means a diva (although the above might seem otherwise). The idea of chilling around a fire with a drink in hand under the stars, amazing.  Relaxing with a book to read, fantastic.  Non stop braai and potjie food for days, yummy. The thing about camping that freaks me out is:

1. Sleeping on the ground, where bugs can potentially crawl over you in the middle of the night. Yes, I know you get a groundsheet and the tent zip is closed, but bugs are sneaky critters, if they manage to get into my house from time to time surely a tent is not even a challenge?

2. ABLUTIONS – flip man, this just freaks me out. Needing to pee in the middle of the night and having to walk to the “outhouse”.  Then the “outhouse” itself is a worry.  I battle as it is to shower and change at the Fitness Centre, which is clean, now I must do it in a facility that might not be the cleanest.  All the flip flops in the world might not sort that phobia out.

3. Inclement weather – I feel that the weather needs to be perfect for camping, which is never guaranteed. Rain and wind just don’t make for a good camping trip.

This story has caused much delight in our friend circle.  We have friends who are seasoned campers who are now offering to take me on trial run before this December trip.  The list of friends wanting to join this camping trip, to see me in action, is growing as we speak.  I taking bookings if anyone wants to join the list 🙂




Say what? A Liebster Award, nogal!

During all the chaos and focus on my hood that is burning down around me, I missed a tweet from the lovely Sarah over at The Mommy City. She nominated me for a Liebster Award, which is kinda cool, right? Thank-you so much for the nomination Sarah 🙂  I love the way Bloggers come up with ways to interact and find out more about each other.  So here are my answers to Sarah’s questions.


♥ If you could have a whole day just to yourself, what would you do?

I would have to take the selfish route here and say I would spend it ALONE with my husband (sorry Tribelet’s).  A day out in Franschoek would be great.  Take walk through the town and check out all the quaint shops, then enjoy a lazy lunch.

♥ What makes your heart skip a beat?

The husband (cheesy, I know) and then those precious Tribelet’s have a way of pulling at my heart strings, little buggers.

♥ Where was your best holiday?

A trip on the train with my family when I was still in Primary school.  We went to visit my Nan in Pretoria and spent a week in the Kruger Park.  Amazing memories of fun times spend with my Pops.

♥ If you had a choice of car, what would your dream drive be? 

So I am a HUGE VW fan.  I have had in excess of 6 VW Beetles during the course of my life.  If budget allowed I would pimp my ride with a brand new VW Beetle.

♥ Tea or coffee?

Easiest question I could be asked. Coffee. no debate, no reason, simply coffee.

♥ What do you always have next to you when you blog?

My phone, my blog book where I scribble down loads of ideas that are yet to be translated into blog posts.

♥ What is your favourite cartoon to watch with the kids?

Without a doubt The Smurfs, loved those little blue guys and Smurfette.

♥ What is your favourite post you have ever written?

There are a couple but the stand out for me is How I Met Your Father .  It was fun taking a trip back down memory lane and I surprised myself about how much I remembered.


There seem to be a couple of “rules” out there regarding this “award”, so I thought I would do it my way.  I am nominating 2 bloggers: 3 Kids, 2 Dogs, 1 Old House & se7en + 1.  These are 2 of my favourite blogs to settle in with a cup of coffee and read. So here are your questions ladies!

♥ What is currently inside your handbag?

♥ Is a there topic/subject you would NEVER blog about?

♥ What is your favourite quote?

♥ Bath or shower?

♥ Charity of choice and why?

You see, easy peasy!!