Lessons for my Tribelet’s

Lessons for my Tribelets

This has been sitting in my draft for 2 years now as I still have some much to say.  But then I had a little think about the person I am and realised I would always something to say. So this will  be a work in progress blog post.  So for now my Tribelet’s, keep these things in mind:

  • Don’t be afraid to sit in the front row of your life.
  • Fashion comes, fashion goes but when it comes to pink & red / black & brown, never the 2 colours should meet.
  • You matter.
  • Travel as much as you can, see the world and see our beautiful country.
  • Sometimes it is okay if the only thing you did today is breathe.
  • Please don’t smoke, you know how much I hate it and how horrible it looks. Oh, and how bad it is for you.  
  • If you stumble, make it part of your dance.
  • Olives are not an acquired taste, they are plain nasty.  
  • Love truly does make the world go round.
  • Remember when you look up at the stars your Pops is the brightest one, looking over you.
  • Try everything at least once! Expect for drugs, skydiving, F1 racing and crocodile wrestling .  All very overrated. 
  • For the girls: Always wear your invisible crown.
  • For Caleb: It is never too late to be a Rock Star.
  • The truth always wins.
  • Always be Proudly South African and please never support the All Black’s.
  • You are enough.
  • Please and Thank-you are still magic words, no matter how old you may be.
  • Be kind to others, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle.
  • Always know the difference between what you are getting and what you deserve.
  • Life is far too short to drink bad coffee.
  • It is never about what you ask for but about how you ask for it.
  • Be kind.
  • Music could solve all the world’s problems if we could all just stop and listen. Take time to listen.

 

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** Always remember: I have loved you all before I knew you and I pinky promise I will love you all forever and then some!

To my Daughter on her 21st birthday

Dear Tayla,

Today, 21 years ago, my life would be FOREVER changed and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

The memories I have of 23 February 1995 are vivid, colourful and always put a smile on my face.  We all know patience is not my strong point and this was tested after you decided to make me wait an extra 10 odd days for your arrival.  I thank my lucky stars that  Queen were performing at Sun City the on 25 February.  This led our legendary Dr Smit to induce me on 23 February as he was heading off to jol up a storm with Freddie Mercury.

I nervously arrived at the hospital on Wednesday evening.  We were told that all the family must leave and they could return the next morning around 7:00am as I was being induced at midnight. So there I was left alone, not being able to sleep, too excited and nervous about what lay ahead.  No sooner did the induction process start at midnight and so did the contractions.  I remember the old school midwife telling me to wait it out for the “real pain” when I asked for drugs, any drugs!  Next thing I knew the doctor was being called, I was in the shower and being told by the same said midwife that if I didn’t get out of the shower in the next 2 minutes the Dr Smit was coming in to get me out.

With no time for anyone to be called and no drugs, there I was in the labour ward, alone, being introduced to my daughter at 5:30am.  Selfishly I treasure the fact that I had that experience on my own. I felt like someone had finally won my heart and I was happy to hand it over unconditionally.  It was the start of our adventure.

The first official photo of Tayla Vanessa Viviers

The first official photo of Tayla Vanessa Viviers

I remember when you started school in London.  We had just arrived there and you were decked from head to toe in Barbie clothing.  When I fetched you after your first day and asked how it was, you enjoyed it but mentioned that the English yobs kids were teasing you about your clothing.  My heart broke for you but the only concern you had was that they were already Harry Potter books.  So off to GAP we went to kit you out in the coolest clothing.

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You have achieved so much that we are all so proud of.  Your overseas exchange that you went on in Grade 7.  I was so shattered that you got to spend your 13th birthday in another country but once again you took it all in your stride and made the most of it.

13th birthday celebrations in the UK

13th birthday celebrations in the UK

Your determination is something I admire.  From Grade 10 you were convinced that you wanted to study Speech and Language Therapy.  I thought it was a phase, that it too would pass.  When I realised in Matric that you were still singing the same tune we arranged for you to job shadow at Groote Schuur Hospital.  Within the first hour I received a message to say that you were loving it and that this is definitely what you wanted to do.  You wanted to help people and make a difference.  Third year into your studies and I have no doubt the people you work with will be richer therefore.

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Just love this photo!

Our own Teletubbie

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We have been so fortunate to have had such amazing people helping you along your journey.  Your Dad and Nanna have always been there to support you.  They add some sanity to the crazy mix of people in our lives.  Gran and Babe are forever the Pillar of Strength that keep our family together.

The Gran and The Nanna!

The Gran and The Nanna!

 

The Babe!

The Babe!

My one comfort is that although Pops is not physically here with us to see what a beautiful woman you have grown into, I know he is with you constantly and permanently smiling down on you.

Special times with Pops.

Special times with Pops.

Your siblings (there are a truckload of them) love you to bits and the highlight is always when they they know you are coming home for the week-end.

Ella-Blu and Caleb with you before your Matric Farewell.

Ella-Blu and Caleb with you before your Matric Farewell.

Two peas in a pod.

Two peas in a pod.

Tribelet's

Tribelet’s

Sisterly love

Sisterly love

Welcoming your only brother, while Ella-Blu is not that convinced.

Welcoming your only brother, while Ella-Blu is not that convinced.

We have cried. We have screamed. We have been angry. We have laughed until the tears roll down our cheeks and we do that silly snort.  Most importantly though, we have always loved.

Happy 21st!!

Happy 21st!!

I end this off with words from the wisest Bear there ever was, remember always:

 

“If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together,
 There is something you must always remember. 
You are braver than you believe, stronger than 
You seem, and smarter than you think.
 But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart.. I’ll always be with you.”  
Winnie the Pooh

The happiest of birthday’s to you.

Love you Always,

Mom

PS… I have saved the embarrassing photos for Saturday’s party

 

Heaven has taken my Hero

Dear Pops,

Happy 67th birthday!

Mili-Flyn never had the privileged of meeting you.  All she knows of you are the stories we get to tell, so she knows of you through our wonderful memories.  We always look up at the evening sky and pick out the brightest star, which is you, looking down on us.  She knows you are in Heaven looking over us constantly.  She asked the other day why you couldn’t visit us from Heaven.  The idea that is was too far didn’t seem to matter to her, she said you could simply take a plane. If only it was that simple.

So while you look down on us, I have no doubt you are kicking up your heels in Heaven and having the best celebration.

Miss you always,

Nix

Pops the Legend

Pops the Legend

Do you want to build a Snowman? Mili-Flyn turns 4

Once I got my head around the fact that my little baby and LAST BORN is turning 4, I slotted into party planning mode and took to Pinterest.  Which I am sure every Mother does?  I then presented Mili-Flyn with a list of options for themes, which was such a rookie move on my part.  No amount of negotiations could persuade her to change her mind.  So the theme for this year was: Frozen!

Besides the joys of looking for ideas on Pinterest, most of the ideas and inspiration came from the stunning parties that Melinda Connor of  Pretty Things For You works her magic on! When I grow up, I want to plan parties think she does.  My sister needs a massive round of applause for always being an excellent wing woman for these parties and cutting out copious amounts of snowflakes, Olaf noses and other things.

Even though I was dragging my heels on this theme, it was loads of funny to organise.  As Melinda Connor mentioned, finding blue sweets is the most challenging thing.  Flip, I could not find any blue fizzers or blue fizz pops.  Frozen parties are big business.

Eskom did however add too my stress levels.  Load shedding was scheduled in my area during the Frozen party time slot.  So scratch jumping castle off the list.  Make coffee and tea beforehand in flasks and your problems are solved. Oh, and add a swimming pool for the adventurous kids to wade (unplanned) on the steps. As you can see from the photo’s below the birthday girl had the BEST time! What made it all worthwhile was when the birthday girl saw the table all set up she said it was BEAUTIFUL!

With today being this little person’s actual birthday, I want to wish her the happiest of birthday’s.  Ruling our house with an Iron Fist is no easy task and she manages it seamlessly.  Happy Birthday beautiful child xxx

 

Birthday Girl

Birthday Girl

 

Behold the party table.

Behold the party table.

 

 

Pin the nose on Olaf

Pin the nose on Olaf

Thank-you goodies

Thank-you goodies

Olaf noses

Olaf noses

Yummy cake

Yummy cake

Melted snow

Melted snow

Reindeer droppings anyone?

Reindeer droppings anyone?

in the words of the birthday girl, the table looked "beautiful"

in the words of the birthday girl, the table looked “beautiful”

All partied out!

All partied out!

High School for Ella-Blu – what the fudge!

Getting Ella-Blu prepared for High School in itself was a challenge.  Not that she was the issue, the new uniform was. Firstly, after she had spent her Primary School years at Sun Valley Primary School, where the uniform is shorts, golf shirt and sneakers/barefoot.  Being the child she is the barefoot option happened, rarely did the sneakers make it onto her feet.  Secondly, with her being such tiny one find uniform that fitted was a MISSION.  In the end it all got sorted and this morning day 1 of her High School journey started.

I did walk her to the gate this morning at the High School, managed to even get a kiss in before she spotted someone she knew and headed off on her journey.  Harder for Mom and Dad who drove to work with giant lumps in throat!

 

And so the journey begins

And so the journey begins

All of the Tribelet school goers with Dad

All of the Tribelet school goers with Dad

No family shoot nowadays is complete without Cooper

No family shoot nowadays is complete without Cooper

14 not out

Today marks our 14 year wedding anniversary!  Pretty damn impressive, if I say so myself.

Now my husband seems to think I don’t have a romantic bone in my body.  Which is such nonsense.  In my mind I am a true romantic at heart.  I mean, I have watched The Notebook at least 30 times.  Each time I watch it, I still do that ugly cry.  The one where you sob and are left with a combination of tears and snot all over your face.  Pfft, at me not being romantic!

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In an en devour to prove just how romantic I am, I have put together a MIX TAPE.  You know, like I would have done in high school for my boyfriend.  Cheesy I know, but then romance is cheesy.

So happy 14 years to the man that has been there through think and thin. Is very accepting and supportive of me and all that I take on.  And manages to maintain some sort of sanity in our very crazy house!

 

Ferreira Mix Tape - Side ASide A:
Still Into You – Paramore / Baby Be Mine – The Parlotones / True Love – Pink /                                Head Over Feet – Alanis Morissette / Stay with Me – Sam Smith / I Believe In A Thing Called Love – The Darkness
Ferreira Mix Tape - Side B
Side B:
You Were Meant For Me – Jewel / Time Of Your Life – Green Day / Thank-you – Dido / Chasing Cars – Snow Patrol / Iris – Goo Goo Dolls

 

 

PS… Love you

xxx